Links to other parts of this miniseries:
A.J. Jacobs on Gratitude – Part 1
A.J. Jacobs on Gratitude – Part 3
A.J. Jacobs on Gratitude – Part 4
Estimated reading time: 1 minute, 49 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: A.J. Jacobs on Gratitude – Part 2
— From Thanks a Thousand: A Gratitude Journey by A.J. Jacobs
In yesterday’s post and video, A.J. Jacobs told us how his gratitude journey had started and he shared some of the most important findings on the science behind gratitude. Expanding a bit on that, in Thanks a Thousand, he mentions, “gratitude is the single best predictor of well-being, and good relationships, beating out twenty-four other impressive traits such as hope, love, and creativity.”
Seeing this, it behooves us to learn how we can be more grateful to reap all these benefits.
Where should we start? Check out today’s video below (3:48 min) to see A.J.’s suggestions and tips on how to be grateful.
First, he points out the importance of being aware and noticing. The background for this tip comes from the book, where he explains that according to evolutionary psychologists, “All humans are genetically programmed to pay attention to what goes wrong [because] in Paleolithic times, it had survival value.” A.J. says, “Your one-thousandth great-grandparents needed to be damn sure they remembered which mushroom was poisonous.”
The result of this negative bias, nowadays, is that, “we are awash in modern-day anxiety. We often see our lives as problem after problem, crisis after crisis [and] many of us live in what some psychologists call the ‘deficit’ mind-set, not the ‘surplus’ mind-set.” As a consequence, “we spend far too much time fretting about what we’re missing instead of focusing on what we have.”
How to revert this? It’s simple. Notice the things around you. A.J. explains this on the video. He also shares a life hack for falling asleep in gratitude, and finally explains the transformative power of being grateful for all those things that we take for granted.
Enjoy!
ACTION
TODAY: When you go to bed tonight, don’t count sheep. Do the exercise that A.J. shares and you’ll fall asleep with a smile!
FUTURE: Start a new gratitude ritual: on a daily basis, make a point of noticing one thing that you would otherwise take for granted. Think of the many benefits you receive from it. You’ll be grateful instantly!
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