by Helena Escalante | Goals, Growth, Mindset, Miniseries, Opportunity, Resources, Tools
Estimated reading time: 3 minutes, 21 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Believe you can succeed and you will – Part 2
— From The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D. (Read an excerpt here.)
Yesterday we started talking about the importance of having a deeply rooted belief in our capacity to make our goals happen. Yet when we think of that, it’s natural for our lizard brain to pay a visit and remind us of our disbelief and all those times when we have failed.
Schwartz also talks about disbelief: “The ‘okay-I’ll-give-it-a-try-but-I-don’t-think-it-will-work’ attitude produces failures. Disbelief is negative power. When the mind disbelieves or doubts, the mind [comes up with] ‘reasons’ to support that disbelief. Doubt, disbelief, the subconscious will to fail, the not really wanting to succeed, is responsible for most failures.”
“Think doubt and fail. Think victory and succeed.”
Mankind has been to the moon and back. Mankind has built a tunnel under the English Channel. Mankind has built the Great Wall of China. Mankind has been able to connect all of us via the Internet. Mankind has developed nanotechnology. And the best part is that mankind is made up of normal people, just like you and I, who deeply believed they could achieve their goals.
Ok, so we’re at a point where we want to believe or, at least, we’re willing to give it a try, right? Schwartz gives us the following three steps to develop the power of belief:
1. Think success, don’t think failure. “At work, in your home, substitute success thinking for failure thinking. When you face a difficult situation, think, ‘I’ll win,’ not ‘I’ll probably lose.’ When you compete with someone else, think ‘I’m equal to the best,’ not ‘I’m outclassed.’ When opportunity appears, think ‘I can do it,’ never ‘I can’t.’ Let the master thought ‘I will succeed’ dominate your thinking process. Thinking success conditions your mind to create plans that produce success. Thinking failure does the exact opposite.”
2. Remind yourself regularly that you are better than you think you are. “Successful people are not supermen. Success does not require a superintellect. Nor is there anything mystical about success. And success isn’t based on luck. Successful people are just ordinary folks who have developed belief in themselves and what they do. Never—yes, never—sell yourself short.”
3. Believe big. “The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier—certainly no more difficult—than small ideas and small plans.”
In closing, I’ll leave you with a quote from one of my favorite success authors and sales guru, Zig Ziglar:
“I believe success is achieved by ordinary people with extraordinary determination.”
ACTION
TODAY: Think about your goals today, and determine what is stopping you from achieving them. Fear? Resistance? Disbelief? Doubt? Bring to mind the memory evoked yesterday about a time when you attained a goal because you firmly believed you would. The goal could be finishing school, finding a job, getting married, turning in a project on time, taking your niece to the circus, flossing… big or small, we’ve all committed to something in the past because there was no doubt on our minds that we would do it, and we did.
With that memory in mind, firmly commit to believe in yourself as of this moment, and figure out what you will tell your lizard brain when disbelief and doubt show up (they will, but you can tame them and make them go away: thank them for wanting to participate and tell them there is no room for them). Here’s a great post by Seth Godin on Quieting the Lizard Brain.
FUTURE: Whenever you’re hesitating, remember that you have everything within you to succeed. Your belief and your determination will help you find the ways to achieve whatever you need to reach your goals. It may not be easy, but your belief will bring about the resolve and find the resources to make it happen.
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by Helena Escalante | Goals, Growth, Mindset, Miniseries, Opportunity, Resources, Tools
Estimated reading time: 3 minutes, 22 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Believe you can succeed and you will – Part 1
— From The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D. (Read an excerpt here.)
The dedication of The Magic of Thinking Big is one of the most beautiful ones I’ve ever read: it tells the story of David J. Schwartz’s son, Davey, feeling “mighty big” when he graduated from kindergarten. Schwartz asked Davey what he wanted to be when he grew up, and he responded, “I want to be a professor.” When Schwartz asked what kind of professor Davey wanted to be, he responded, “a professor of happiness.” And so the author dedicated his book to “a fine boy with a grand goal.”
And the reason why this is relevant to today’s idea is because we’ve previously talked about quitting (here, here, and here), but we haven’t talked much about the mindset of success itself and the importance of setting of grand goals.
Success means different things to different people, yet they’re all good, wonderful, and positive things. “Every human being wants success. Everybody wants the best this life can deliver. Nobody enjoys crawling, living in mediocrity. No one likes feeling second-class and feeling forced to go that way.”
Schwartz goes back to the old adage that says that faith can move mountains. “Believe, really believe, you can move a mountain, and you can.” Not many people believe in themselves and in their grand goals, and thus, not many are able to move their mountains.
The author is quick to point out that some people will think, “It’s nonsense to think you can make a mountain move away by just saying ‘Mountain, move away.’ It’s simply impossible.’ People who think this way have belief confused with wishful thinking. And true enough, you can’t wish away a mountain. You can’t wish yourself into an executive suite. Nor can you wish yourself into a five-bedroom, three-bath house or the high-income brackets. You can’t wish yourself into a position of leadership.”
But, Schwartz says, “You can move a mountain with belief. You can win success by believing you can succeed. There is nothing magical or mystical about the power of belief.”
The belief—the deeply entrenched belief—that Schwartz is talking about is the “I’m-positive-I-can attitude [that] generates the power, skill and energy needed to do. When you believe I-can-do-it, the how-to-do-it develops.”
Let’s remember the quote by Goethe that says, “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.” That act of definitive committing is nothing but the belief that we can do it. And we’ve all experienced—in major or minor ways—how providence moves with the opportunities, coincidences, chance encounters, ideas and the myriad resources that present themselves to help us forge a path towards achieving our goals once we’re fully committed.
“Belief in great results is the driving force, the power behind all great books, plays, scientific discoveries. Belief in success is behind every successful business, church, and political organization. Belief in success is the one basic, absolutely essential ingredient of successful people. Believe, really believe, you can succeed, and you will.”
Stay tuned: tomorrow’s Part 2 will share three steps to develop the power of belief.
ACTION
TODAY: Think of a few times in the past when you’ve fully committed to something (big or small) and made it happen. Do you remember the deeply-entrenched belief you had in yourself to complete your goal? There was zero hesitation as to whether you’d complete it — it was a given that you would. That is what we’re aiming for here. If that belief is not readily available to you now, take a walk down memory lane and dig it up, it’s inside you, believe me. Keep that memory handy, as you will revert back to it when you need to evoke this feeling.
TOMORROW: Come back to read Part 2 of this miniseries.
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by Helena Escalante | Accountability, Goals, Growth, Mindset, Planning, Time, Tools
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 15 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Decisions are temporary
— From REWORK: Change the way you work forever by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson
“Don’t make up problems you don’t have yet,” say Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson in their book Rework. “But what if…?” “What happens when…?” “Don’t we need to plan for…?” These are not problems until they become real problems, “Most of the things you worry about never happen anyway.”
Decisions are temporary, and “the ability to change course is [a] big advantage. […] So pay attention to today and worry about later when it gets here. Otherwise, you’ll waste energy, time, and money fixating on problems that may never materialize.”
As you start planning a project or a startup, keep in mind that the decisions you make don’t need to last forever. “It’s easy to shoot down good ideas, interesting policies, or worthwhile experiments by assuming that whatever you decide now needs to work for years on end. It’s just not so [especially for nimble projects and businesses]. If circumstances change, your decisions can change.”
As a child, my mom always told me that it was OK to change my mind after I had tried and given something my best. Today’s idea is the grown-up and business version of that philosophy. Recognize that the decisions you make today are the best ones you can make based on the information you have and the tools and resources at your disposal. If times and circumstances change in the future, trust that you will make the best decision(s) then for you/your team/your business, even if they involve changing everything that you had decided previously.
“If you never change your mind, why have one?” – Edward de Bono
ACTION
TODAY: Is there something bugging you about a decision/policy/procedure that was made a long time ago and that has continued “just because it’s always been that way” but is no longer working for you? Make a new decision that will make it better to adapt to your current circumstances.
FUTURE: Keep in mind the importance of making decisions that go with the times, circumstances, and foreseeable future. Don’t be afraid of making new decisions, if they don’t work out, you can always revert to the previous one—but it’s worth trying out, as you may be pleasantly surprised by the circumstances that the new decisions bring. This reminds me of an old business joke: The CFO and the CEO are talking about making a decision to train the employees. The CFO asks, “But what if we train them, and they leave?” To which the CEO responds, “Yes, but what if we don’t train them, and they stay?”
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by Helena Escalante | Collaboration, Goals, Growth, Leadership, Mindset, Opportunity
Estimated reading time: 1 minute, 47 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Idea incomes
— From: Steal Like An Artist: 10 Things Nobody Told You About Being Creative by Austin Kleon
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” said Jim Rohn, personal development guru. This idea reflects in all we do, as author Austin Kleon points out in Steal Like an Artist: “if you take the incomes of five of your closest friends and average them, the resulting number will be pretty close to your own income.”
Further, Kleon points out: “I think the same is true of our idea incomes. You’re only going to be as good as the stuff you surround yourself with.” And he recalls how it drove him crazy when his mom used to tell him “Garbage in, garbage out.” Fortunately, that’s a thing of the past and now he understands and appreciates what she meant.
If you are reading this blog, it means that you are a professional and a lifelong learner. As one myself, I wholeheartedly agree with Kleon when he says, “Your job is to collect good ideas. The more good ideas you collect, the more you can choose from to be influenced by.” The more you do this, the more your idea incomes will rise.
Collect your ideas selectively, and share them with the people who surround you so that their idea incomes can go up as well. Remember the quote by President John F. Kennedy, “A rising tide lifts all boats.” Let your ideas be the rising tide.
ACTION
TODAY: Make a list of the 5 ideas you most like and share it with a loved one or a colleague. Ask them to do the same with you.
FUTURE: Ponder the ideas you have and the new ones you come across and create a list. Share it. Repeat as often as you’d like. Make it a habit of expanding your mind and thus raising your idea income with at least one new idea every day… By the way, I know of a blog that can help you with that! 😉
Let’s lift the boats in your circles today: please share today’s idea with someone! You can do so via email, Facebook or Twitter!
by Helena Escalante | Goals, Growth, Mindset, Opportunity, Planning, Tools
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 35 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Quit before you start
— From The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick) by Seth Godin
Dick Collins, the ultramarathon runner, said, “Decide before the race the conditions that will cause you to stop and drop out. You don’t want to be out there saying, ‘Well, gee, my leg hurts, I’m a little dehydrated, I’m sleepy, I’m tired, and it’s cold and windy.’ And talk yourself into quitting. If you are making a decision based on how you feel at that moment, you will probably make the wrong decision.”
In life and business, just as Collins did it with his sport, it’s important to figure out what the conditions are for quitting before you get started. In The Dip, marketing guru Seth Godin says that this is tool number one: “If quitting is going to be a strategic decision that enables you to make smart choices in the marketplace, then you should outline your quitting strategy before the discomfort sets in.”
Godin goes on to say, “quitting when you’re panicked is dangerous and expensive. The best quitters… are the ones who decide in advance when they’re going to quit. You can always quit later—so wait until you’re done panicking to decide.”
The problem with the way we quit is that, barring emergencies or life-or-death circumstances, the decision is made at a moment of great pressure or great discomfort, without much time to think and truly analyze the consequences of our actions.
“When the pressure is greatest to compromise, to drop out, or to settle, your desire to quit should be at its lowest. The decision to quit is often made in the moment. But that’s exactly the wrong time to make such a critical decision. The reason so many of us quit in the Dip is that without a compass or a plan, the easiest thing to do is to give up. While that might be the easiest path, it’s also the least successful one.”
The hardest part, Godin says, is to have the perspective to know when you are in a Cul-de-Sac to quit, and when you are in a Dip to continue. That is why setting your parameters before you get started is very powerful, because once you’re in pain, frustrated or stuck you may just want to get out, but that may deter you from reaching your goals.
ACTION
TODAY: Are you about to start something? Set your parameters for quitting before you get started. Or if you are already involved in something but have never set up your criteria for quitting, do it today. Remember that quitting is not a bad thing and we all need to do it. Here are two posts to expand on this: Selective Quitting and Understanding When to Quit and When to Stick.
FUTURE: Make it a habit of setting your quitting criteria before you start something. That way you won’t have to make a decision that you might later regret because your mind was under much pressure.
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