by Helena Escalante | Accountability, Goals, Growth, Mindset, Planning, Tools
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 33 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Make tiny decisions
— From REWORK: Change the way you work forever by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson
Life seems to be marked by big-decisions that take us down specific paths in which we want to go. But if you stop and think about it, “big decisions are hard to make and hard to change,” say the authors of Rework, Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson.
Fried and Hansson go on to say, “Once ego and pride are on the line, you can’t change your mind without looking bad. […] And then there’s inertia too: the more steam you put into going in one direction, the harder it is to change course.”
Instead of making big decisions, the authors’ advice is to make tiny ones, so that we can’t make big mistakes. When we make choices that are small enough, as it turns out, they’re effectively temporary and we can change them or fix them if something goes wrong. “There’s no big penalty if you mess up. You just fix it.”
Yet, with the joy of having made a big decision that turned out right, comes the desire of making more big decisions and achieving more. So, how do we reconcile this?
“Making tiny decisions doesn’t mean you can’t make big plans or think big ideas. It just means you believe the best way to achieve those big things is one tiny decision at a time.”
And this makes perfect sense because every large project, plan, idea or goal is comprised of a series of small actions, that when linked together give us that big result. In reality, big decisions come as a collection of tiny ones that resulted in you now having the ability to make that big decision. And once you make it, you can start moving forward via tiny decisions that will ultimately bring you the desired results. Breaking it down into tiny decisions or tiny components is the key.
The authors cite explorer Ben Saunders who achieved a daunting North Pole expedition: 31 marathons back-to-back, 72 days alone. “His ‘huge decision’ was often so horrifically overwhelming to contemplate that his day-to-day decision making rarely extended beyond ‘getting to that bit of ice a few yards in front of me.’ ”
Just remember that attainable goals are always those that you can break down into little steps by making tiny decisions.
“Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.” – Vincent Van Gogh
ACTION
TODAY: What is a big decision or big goal that you have in front of you? Think of tiny decisions that you can make that will move you closer in that direction.
FUTURE: As you contemplate making big decisions, contemplate as well the series of small ones that you will take—at least initially—to get going. This way you will be able to accomplish them and build on: you finish one, and move on to the next. Give yourself permission to make mistakes, they’ll be tiny, after all, and you will learn from them, be able to course-correct, and move on until you reach your goal.
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by Helena Escalante | Accountability, Goals, Growth, Mindset, Opportunity, Planning, Tools
Estimated reading time: 3 minutes, 3 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Resign your job every year
— From Born For This: How to Find the Work You Were Meant to Do by Chris Guillebeau (Here’s a book review I wrote and here’s my interview with Chris at the New York Public Library.)
In Born For This, Chris Guillebeau shares a very interesting exercise to make sure that we can choose and follow our desired path with confidence. Here it is, verbatim:
When you’re stuck in a rut or simply not sure if your current job is the best choice, here’s an idea: once a year, on the date of your choosing, decide for yourself that it’s time to quit. You can do this literally or theoretically. Every year, commit to yourself that you’ll choose to break out of prison and do something different unless staying the course is truly the best way forward.
You can also do this is you’re going to school. Every year, decide to drop out unless continuing the program is the best option. As much as possible, ignore sunk costs. If you’ve been doing a six-year Ph.D. program and have two years invested before you realize it’s making you miserable, does it matter? Not really. Consider the next four years of your life, not the previous investment that brought you this far.
Whether quitting your job, your school program, or something else, here’s a draft statement you can use to make your commitment:
Every year on [date], I will resign from my job. I’ll evaluate if it’s the best possible option for me to continue with another year. If it is, I can proceed with confidence and give it my all. If not, I’ll immediately start looking for something better.
If you end up sticking with your current job because you love it, great! If not, it’s time to get out of Alcatraz. Either way, now you’ve made a conscious decision and can proceed with confidence.
What I love about this approach is that it reminds us that there are always options. Further, it enables us to determine whether the path we are on is indeed the one we want to continue on. If it is, then that’s fantastic, and by virtue of deciding that we want to continue with what we are doing, we have renewed energy, enthusiasm and commitment.
If we determine that it is not the path in which we want to continue, that is equally valuable, because that will help us look for alternatives.
And the idea doesn’t just apply to business or school, I’d take it one step further and apply it to all our activities: Do we still want to continue involved in that non-profit or is it time for a change? Do we still want to continue taking yoga and pilates or is it time to change to swimming, crossfit or ballet? Is it time to take photography classess instead of oil painting?
By analyzing our involvement in our activities we will be able to figure out what is best for us now, apply selective quitting, and thus move forward confidently having made a conscious decision.
ACTION
TODAY: Determine the date when you are going to figuratively “quit.” Then make some time in your calendar to think about the pros and cons. Make a conscious choice about moving forward in your current path or in a different one and determine next steps.
FUTURE: Make time in your calendar to analyze whether you want to continue with the activities in which you are currently involved. Make a list of pros and cons and make a decision. Once that decision is made you’ll be able to move forward with ease.
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by Helena Escalante | Accountability, Collaboration, Goals, Growth, Habits, Leadership, Mindset, Opportunity, Planning, Resources, Tools, Wellbeing
Estimated reading time: 3 minutes, 27 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Progress
— From The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D. (Read an excerpt here.)
One of the most wonderful compliments we can all receive is that of equating us with progress: “He/she stands for progress. He/she is the right person for the job.” I still haven’t met anybody who does not like to be seen as a forward-looking, progress-seeking leader.
Looking forward, thinking progress, believing in progress and pushing for progress are leadership qualities that we can all develop. David J. Schwartz in The Magic of Thinking Big says, “Leaders, real leaders, are in short supply. Status-quo-ers (the everything’s-all-right-let’s-don’t-upset-the-apple-cart folks) far outnumber the progressives (the there’s-lots-of-room-for-improvement-let’s-get-to-work-and-do-it-better people). Join the leadership elite. Develop a forward look.”
But how?
There are two things you can do to develop your progressive outlook:
1. Think improvement in everything you do.
2. Think high standards in everything you do.
Students, employees and people in general pattern their thoughts and actions after those of their leaders. That is why a new teacher, a new boss, a new president, or any kind of new leader can make such an enormous difference, for good or bad. Schwartz says, “Remember this: when you take over the leadership of a group, the persons in that group immediately begin to adjust themselves to the standards you set. […] Once they know, they act accordingly.”
Schwartz goes on to say something very profound and powerful: “Over a period of time, [people] tend to become carbon copies of their chief. The simplest way to get high-level performance is to make sure the master copy is worth duplicating.” (!)
So, how can we make make sure that, as master copies, we are worth duplicating??
Fortunately, Schwartz includes a checklist to make sure that we are thinking progressively in four areas: work, family, ourselves, and our community. Keep it handy!
Do I think progressively toward my work?
- Do I appraise my work with the “how can we do it better?” attitude?
- Do I praise my company, the people in it, and the products it sells at every possible opportunity?
- Are my personal standards with reference to the quantity and quality of my output higher now than three or six months ago?
- Am I setting an excellent example for my subordinates, associates and others I work with?
Do I think progressively toward my family?
- Is my family happier today than it was three or six months ago?
- Am I following a plan to improve my family’s standard of living?
- Does my family have an ample variety of stimulating activities outside the home?
- Do I set an example of “a progressive,” a supporter of progress, for my children?
Do I think progressively toward myself?
- Can I honestly say that I am a more valuable person today than three or six months ago?
- Am I following an organized self-improvement program to increase my value to others?
- Do I have forward-looking goals for at least five years in the future?
- Am I a booster in every organization or group to which I belong?
Do I think progressively toward my community?
- Have I done anything in the past six months that I honestly feel has improved my community (neighborhood, churches, schools, etc.)?
- Do I boost worthwhile community projects rather than object, criticize or complain?
- Have I ever taken the lead in bringing about some worthwhile improvement in my community?
- Do I speak well of my neighbors and fellow citizens?
Lastly, I’ll leave you with a quote from Benjamin Franklin that I love:
“Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.”
ACTION
TODAY: Take one of the areas described above (work, family, yourself or your community) and answer the questions on the checklist. Determine where you are and what you need to do to make progress in that area.
FUTURE: Take some time to answer all the questions in the checklist and determine where you stand in each area. If you are reading this it’s clear that you are indeed a forward-looking, progressive person. Decide in which area you’d like to make (more) progress first and move into that direction. Then tackle another area and so on. In following along the lines of yesterday’s post, take these questions as decision criteria to measure progress as a state of being.
Think progressively toward your circles and please share this post with them via email, Facebook or Twitter, thank you!
by Helena Escalante | Goals, Growth, Mindset, Planning, Tools
Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 8 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: States of being
— From The Personal MBA: Master the Art of Business by Josh Kaufman
When setting goals, it’s important to differentiate an achievement from a State of Being. When we say I want to be happy, or I want to feel excited, or I want to be successful, we are referring to the way in which we’d like to feel as a result of the achievements, but those are not the achievements per se.
According to Josh Kaufman author of The Personal MBA, “A State of Being is a quality of your present experience. Emotional experiences aren’t achievements because they fluctuate over time—you can be happy right now and upset an hour from now. Accordingly, ‘being happy’ is not an achievement—it’s a quality of your present experience.”
While it’s great to want to be happy and successful, and we should all aim for that, it’s best to see states of being as “decision criteria—ways of understanding whether or not your actions are leading to your desired results.”
When you break down the states of being into their components (whatever those components are for you) then you can determine whether what you are doing is yielding the desired results. For instance, Kaufman says, “I define ‘being successful’ as ‘working on things I enjoy with people I like,’ ‘feeling free to choose what I work on,’ and ‘having enough money to live without financial stress.’ Together, these States of Being provide a much more useful definition of success—if that’s how I’m experiencing the world, I’m ‘successful.’ ”
He goes on to explain what it means to him to be happy: “A combination of ‘having fun,’ ‘spending time with people I enjoy,’ ‘feeling calm,’ and ‘feeling free.’ When those States of Being describe my experience in the present moment, I’m ‘happy.’ ”
There you have it. Figure out what decision criteria you can evaluate your achievements under, and you’ll be able to determine whether you are reaching your desired states of being.
ACTION
TODAY: Think of a state of being you want to experience today. Then break it down into the components that are important to you and set periodic times throughout your day for checking in with yourself and determine whether what you are doing is helping you reach that particular state of being.
FUTURE: Figure out the many states of being you want to experience in your life. Break them down into their components and figure out what actions you need to take to reach them. Set your goals accordingly.
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by Helena Escalante | Accountability, Collaboration, Creativity, Goals, Growth, Mindset, Opportunity, Planning, Resources, Time, Tools
Estimated reading time: 3 minutes, 36 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Head-to-heads
— From The Accidental Creative: How to Be Brilliant at a Moment’s Notice by Todd Henry
The Accidental Creative by Todd Henry is a great book about prepping yourself to do your best creative work and generate good ideas consistently and purposefully. By creative work Henry doesn’t mean just those professions in a typically creative field, such as the arts or advertising. He says, “You may even cringe when you hear the word [creative] applied to you. […] You may prefer the term ‘strategist’ or ‘manager’ or something else that feels more concrete. Call yourself anything you want, but if you’re responsible for solving problems, developing strategies, or otherwise straining your brain for new ideas, I’m going to call you a creative—even if you ended up being one accidentally.”
Henry shares his methods and insights for all of us, creatives or “accidental creatives,” to create faster, better and more effectively to fulfill the demands of our lives.
One of the strategies that he suggests as a way to enrich relationships and enrich our mental ability to create is called head-to-heads. “We rise to the level of our competition,” says Henry, “we need others in our life to help us stretch and grow.”
He draws a parallel with sports, where you compete with others head-to-head, such as in running, and this helps you keep the pace. The same principle is applied to your creative life as Henry suggests establishing the practice of head-to-heads.
“In a head-to-head meeting, to people get together, and each party is responsible for sharing new insights and new resources they’ve encountered since the last meeting.” Here are four principles to set up effective head-to-heads:
1. Set a time and be consistent. “Agree to a date, time, meeting place and frequency for the meetings with the other person. Choose someplace quiet and comfortable and make it a priority on your calendar. Once a month is a good frequency because it leaves enough time between meetings for each of you to have experienced something new to share and to have generated a few fresh insights that would make for interesting conversation.”
2. Vary your subject matter. “Don’t harp on the same topic month after month. The idea is to challenge each other with new insights and to spark conversation about things that may otherwise never show up on the other person’s radar.”
3. Choose someone you respect and admire. “Preferably someone within your area of expertise. This will enhance the conversation when you get together, leading to ideas and insights more appropriate to each person’s context. Ask yourself, ‘If I could see inside of anyone’s notebook right now, just to see what they’re currently thinking, who would it be?”
4. Prepare about 15 minutes of content. “Don’t just show up with a sandwich. Spend time putting together materials to discuss. Build them around a topic or insight that you are presently working on or just fascinated by. Again, choose a topic of potential interest to both of you.”
The topics you select are up to you and your creative goals. Henry suggests asking the following questions: “What are you currently interested in or curious about? What have you read or experienced recently that you think the other person knows very little about? What new insights or thoughts have you had that are ripe for application?”
These head-to-heads are a fantastic opportunity to build strong relationships as they challenge and stimulate both of you with the new insights. Give it a try and let me know how it goes!
ACTION
TODAY: Think of someone with whom you would like to set up a head-to-head set of meetings and touch base with that person to see if he/she is interested. Set up a time to meet. You don’t have to make a lifelong commitment to do it, simply set up an initial amount of meetings, say 3 or 4, and then review how each of you is doing and whether you want to continue.
FUTURE: Following the principle of building a FAB PAB, where you set up your own advisory board for a particular project, think also about setting a head-to-head for a particular season or a particular project. This way it may be less daunting, more focused and then you can decide—when it naturally comes to an end—whether you want to continue.
Have someone in mind for a head-to-head? Send him or her this post via email, Facebook or Twitter, thank you!
by Helena Escalante | Creativity, Goals, Growth, Mindset, Opportunity, Planning, Tools
Estimated reading time: 4 minutes, 46 seconds.
TODAY’S IDEA: Are you fighting gravity?
— From Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans.
Designing Your Life is a fantastic book that guides the reader to build an intentionally meaningful and joyful life. It’s a fantastic and highly recommended read! (Hmmmm, miniseries, anyone?)
Both authors are engineers and, as such, they are very well versed in the design of solutions for problems. They teach this approach—“design thinking”—to help you design and live the life you want.
Yet one of the things that they have encountered time and again is people fighting gravity, so to speak. “Gravity problems” as they’ve dubbed them, are those problems on which you cannot take any action. These problems simply exist, yet we tend to get mired in them somehow.
“I’ve got this big problem and I don’t know what to do about it.”
“Oh, wow, Jane, what’s the problem?”
“It’s gravity.”
“Gravity?”
“Yeah—it’s making me crazy! I’m feeling heavier and heavier. I can’t get my bike up hills easily. It never leaves me. I don’t know what to do about it. Can you help me?”
While even the authors cite this is a silly example, it’s an accurate representation of how we sometimes spend our precious time on trying to solve the wrong problem:
- “The company I work for has been family-owned for five generations. There is no way that, as an outsider, I’m ever going to be an executive. What do I do about it?”
- “I’ve been out of work for five years. It’s going to be much harder for me to get a job and that is not fair. What do I do about it?”
- “I want to go back to school and become a doctor, but it will take me at least ten years, and I don’t want to invest that much time at this stage of my life. What do I do about it?”
The authors say that these “gravity problems” are not even problems. We may perceive them as such, but each one is “a situation, a circumstance, a fact of life. It may be a drag (so to speak), but, like gravity, it’s not a problem that can be solved.” It is the reality of things and when we argue or try to fight it, reality always wins. “You can’t outsmart it. You can’t trick it. You can’t bend it to your will. Not now. Not ever.”
So, should we just give up?
No!
What do we do about it?
One word: Reframe. “They key is not to get stuck on something that you have effectively no chance of succeeding at. We are all for aggressive and world-changing goals. […] But do it smart. If you become open-minded enough to accept reality, you’ll be freed to reframe an actionable problem and design a way to participate in the world on things that matter to you and might even work. “
The authors wisely say that the only response to a gravity problem is acceptance. And acceptance is what enables us to reframe situations and be able to solve the problems they create for us. Solving the problem will take many forms, and one of those—which is valid every time—is to simply change our minds.
So, let’s do a quick reframing of the above instances:
In the case of the family-owned company: you don’t stand a chance to be part of the C-Suite. Reframing: you can do the very best job you can do and decide to stay there and be happy, regardless of the title they give you. You can become the expert at running your division of the business. Or you can always look for a job elsewhere where you can grow if the title and position in the org chart are of utmost importance to you. Depends on your situation and your goals.
In the case of being out of work: you can’t change how recruiters think and perceive you and the gap in your resume. Reframing: you can change how you appear to recruiters. Take the volunteer roles you’ve been in and list some significant professional results, for example. That’s impressive!
In the case of med school: you can’t change the length of the studies. Reframing: you can remind yourself that much sooner than 10 years you can start treating patients as a resident in a hospital. Or you can become a physician’s assistant and do a few similar things to what doctors do, with much less training and cost. Or enter the wellness field from a non-clinical angle.
Once you reframe, then you are able to move into the direction of your choice. Prior to that, the battle has no solution and is all in your mind.
I’ll leave you with a quote from another one of my favorite authors, which encompasses the essence of reframing:
“Once you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer
ACTION
TODAY: Think for a moment: What sort of gravity problems are you fighting in your mind? Have they become so prevalent that they are part of your identity? (How many times have we heard someone introduce him or herself, as “I’m a frustrated teacher/lawyer/banker”? [Fill in the profession blank.]) Don’t fight gravity. Work with it instead. How can you reframe those problems?
FUTURE: As you look at new problems that emerge, give some thought to what’s going on in your mind. Are you approaching them as gravity problems, not knowing necessarily what you can do about them? How about acceptance and reframing? Easier said than done, indeed. Yet the burden is lifted almost instantly once we feel the relief acceptance brings; and we can take action to solve the problems once we have made a decision through reframing.
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