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TODAY’S IDEA: The power of perception
− From The Obstacle is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday
Whenever we hear stories of tremendous heartache and hardship turned into triumph, we wonder how they did it and, also, whether we have what it takes. Ryan Holiday, in his excellent book The Obstacle is the Way, says, “through our perception of events, we are complicit in the creation—as well as the destruction—of every one of our obstacles.”
“There is no good or bad without us, there is only perception. There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means.”
That, right there, is the power of perception: obstacles become obstacles in our minds; and it’s in there too that otherwise obstacles can turn into lessons, opportunities, advantages, and even miracles. It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters, said Epictetus, the eminent Greek stoic philosopher who was born in slavery.
“Just because your mind tells you that something is awful or evil or unplanned or otherwise negative doesn’t mean you have to agree. Just because other people say that something is hopeless or crazy or broken to pieces doesn’t mean it is. We decide what story to tell ourselves. Or whether we will tell one at all.”
Stories abound of shifts in perception; such as the boss who didn’t fire an employee for a costly mistake but instead turned it into a training opportunity. And there are countless other stories of blessings in disguise such as the one that Susan Kramer shares in her short and moving TED Talk.
ACTION
TODAY: Take a moment to think about a story you’ve been telling yourself about something that happened to you. What part is frustrating, challenging or simply bugs you? Why? What happens if you turn the story on its head, find a better story, or simply drop the story? Ask yourself the same question as Amy Purdy in her TED Talk: “If my life were a book and I were the author, how would I want the story to go?”
FUTURE: When faced with challenges or adversity, find a way to change the story. A shift in perception will get you unstuck and will change the feelings of resignation and helplessness into action and a new vision for the outcome. Remember that there is always a silver lining if we choose to look for it.
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